Relationship CoachingCouples coaching in Vienna, Perchtoldsdorf & online
Being a couple is wonderful and demanding at the same time. When two individuals meet, friction is part of the deal. There are fulfilling phases, and then there are stretches where you keep falling into the same argument, drift apart, or simply wonder where the lightness went. This is exactly where couples coaching helps.
Together we look at what connects you – and at the beliefs and behaviour patterns that keep pulling you apart. You learn to communicate your needs, to respect your partner's, to let go of old hurt and to find new ways back to each other. I offer a protected space where everything may be said and felt, where you are both seen and understood without judgement. That is where healing, growth and a deeper connection become possible. Your relationship can become a place of joy and closeness again. I am here to walk that path with you.
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Does this sound familiar?
Problems happen in the best relationships – and they can be solved. Let yourself relax into the thought that everything around you is allowed to change. That is not the end, it is a beginning. There is a reason you are here. Couples counselling can help you find a shared path again. With a long-term partner at my side and as a mother of two, I know the highs and lows of a relationship, especially once children become part of the family. Perhaps some of these feelings and thoughts are familiar:
- Your relationship is often shaped by misunderstandings and conflict. You circle the same topics again and again and you are tired of having to repeat yourselves. A healthy way of arguing is missing.
- Dividing up the work is a constant flashpoint. Who does the housework? Who looks after the children? Who pays for what? Both of you feel you have to fight for your own space.
- Parenting, weekends, holiday plans: you rarely agree. Your needs and values seem to drift further apart, and you wonder whether you are still on the same wavelength at all.
- You feel neither seen nor appreciated by the other. Arguments often circle around mutual recognition and respect – something you both long for, and that keeps being missing.
- Desire and passion have faded, and even small gestures of affection are rare. What each of you wants in terms of closeness and space no longer seems to match.
- It is hard to talk openly and respectfully with each other. The conversations you wish for don't happen, or you end up feeling misunderstood.
This is how I help you
What would it be like to feel heard, understood and taken seriously by your partner? To feel free inside your relationship, with the quiet certainty that your love holds? My invitation is not to give up, but to look at this together and to work on it. A fulfilling relationship takes commitment. I help you recognise your patterns and dynamics – and change them. Together we create clarity, strengthen your communication and bring you closer again. It is never too late to start over.
Talking to each other
How do you actually talk to each other? Communication is the heart of a relationship and its greatest challenge. We create a space where you can speak openly about everything. Targeted exercises help you express your feelings, needs, wishes and boundaries clearly, without hurting the other. You learn how to make sure you genuinely understand each other, and how to talk about difficult topics so conflict can be resolved constructively. What grows from that is clarity, understanding and connection.
Me and us
Sometimes it is hard to find the balance between us and me. How can you live your own dreams without losing what you share? We look at how to divide your responsibilities fairly and appreciate each other for what you each contribute. We build structures that make daily life easier – free of endless debates about who should do what and when. Small changes create a new understanding of each other, and both of you feel seen.
Closeness and space
Closeness, space and a living sexuality are essential in every partnership. If passion and desire have faded, we look at what you need to find your way back to each other. You learn to voice your wishes clearly and lovingly, to shape intimacy in a new way, and to understand your partner's love language. Breaches of trust that weigh on you can be worked through, to make room for new closeness. That is how love, desire and a balance between connection and independence come back.
Arguments and blame
Arguments are often an expression of unmet expectations and hurt needs. It is not about who is right or who is to blame, but about understanding the dynamics behind the conflict. We look at your argument patterns and build new ways of dealing with each other respectfully and with solutions in mind. You learn to take responsibility for yourself instead of blaming your partner. That is what makes self-efficacy and mutual understanding possible.
Values and needs
It matters to know your own needs and values and to bring them into alignment with your partner's. Where do your priorities lie, what is important to you, and how do you develop a vision for your future? You learn to talk openly about your wishes before misunderstandings grow. This is about compromise, understanding and respect. I help you strengthen your self-reflection and stand up for yourself, so you can grow both as individuals and as a team.
Personal growth
A happy partnership starts with you. When you look at your own story and your own patterns, compassion for yourself grows. It takes courage to look into the dark corners – and yet that is exactly where growth and healing live. Knowing yourself strengthens your confidence: you can be authentic, stand up for yourself, take criticism and understand your partner better. That is how you create closeness, both with yourself and with the person opposite you.
How coaching works..
I walk beside you towards your goal, as an equal. By asking a lot of questions, listening carefully and also hearing what resonates underneath, I help you question your judgements, give room to your feelings, recognise your resources and find a solution. That shift of perspective in your thinking is what creates lasting personal growth.
I bring everything I know from life coaching, spirituality and energy work. Hundreds of coaching sessions have given me valuable experience – and that is what I now put at your service.
1. Intro call
Every coaching journey starts with a 20-minute video call. You talk about your relationship, ask your questions and see whether I am the right coach for you and whether you feel comfortable with me.
2. Questionnaire
You each receive a short questionnaire by email and send it back to me filled in. That gives me a clearer picture of you, your circumstances and your relationship.
3. First coaching session
A couples session lasts 90 minutes. Together we look at your relationship dynamics and communication patterns. You learn to recognise and understand your own needs and your partner's. We break open old patterns and work on new ways to bring your relationship back into balance. Alongside solutions, this is about creating a deeper connection. I choose my questions and tools intuitively, depending on what supports you most in that moment and what feels right for you.
4. Ongoing support
I coach online via Zoom, which genuinely works just as well as meeting in person. You decide how many sessions you want. Because building trust and working through dysfunctional dynamics takes time, I recommend at least four sessions together. During the process you can also book individual sessions, which supports the work. After only a few meetings you will see remarkable results. Many couples also look for long-term support and work with me over months.
5. How I work
Body, mind and soul cannot be looked at separately. I work with a great deal of empathy and across every level of our being to create alignment. Elements from systemic coaching, positive psychology, bodywork and energy work and neuroscience all flow into the work. Depending on the topic and your openness, we find what fits. I never look at a person in isolation, but always within their environment and their relationships.
6. The toolkit
You get plenty of methods you can build into everyday life: communication models, meditation and visualisation, systemic constellations, inner child work, exercises to strengthen self-worth, belief and affirmation work, imagery and metaphor work, elements of NLP, conflict resolution strategies, relaxation and mindfulness techniques, shadow work and resource-building tools.
7. Scheduling
The intervals between sessions are agreed individually. Depending on what you are working on, sessions usually take place every one to two weeks, so that what you worked on has time to settle.
8. Fees
For prices, coaching packages or a reduced rate in special circumstances, please contact me via the contact form. I will get back to you as soon as I can.
What others say about me
"Clara made me realize so many things about myself. I understood what I really want out of life and how I can reach my goals. I've learnt how to accept and love myself and started to heal from within. She showed me how to handle my strong feelings and fears and that I have all I need within me. Thank you for your being, Clara!"
"I am endlessly grateful to Clara! She has been supporting me as a wonderful coach for many months now. With her natural empathy and her loving ability to sense, through the right questions and exercises, even the things that are still hidden from me, she opens the door to insight and personal change. Powerfully and with a refreshing clarity, she guides me into my own abundance. A deeply felt thank you, dear Clara!" (translated from German)
"Having Clara as a life coach was a great experience for me. She is very kind and sincere person and this could be felt during my sessions with her. I felt that she genuinely cared about me and my blockages and problems. She also has a presence and energy that makes you feel safe. This was really important for me because it can be hard for me to be vulnerable. Overall, I would give my experience 5 stars and highly recommend Clara for anyone that is looking for a life coach."
"Thank you for your sensitive and so professional coaching! You helped me enormously with my struggle with emotions that often overrun me and leave me feeling helpless. You really put yourself into my situation and helped me a great deal with your clever questions and exercises. A lot became clearer, and I can handle my feelings so much better now. I feel lighter, freer, more confident and back in my own strength." (translated from German)
"I was able to build a connection with Clara very quickly. She recognised the current state of my soul through the right questions and a lot of empathy, and advised me in a very focused way. I always left the coaching sessions energised, and the effect lasts. Thank you Clara, see you soon!" (translated from German)
"Clara put herself into my situation with a lot of empathy and gave me exactly the tools I needed to work on my issue. With real expertise and natural talent she connects the individual dots and so understands the bigger picture. My weekly coaching sessions with Clara have become a highlight of my week! I got to know Clara as a very warm and trustworthy person. Combined with the knowledge and experience she has, that makes her a great coach, and one I would definitely recommend." (translated from German)
"I've had four sessions with Clara so far. Since it was my first coaching experience, I wasn't sure what to expect or if it would be worth it. Looking back, it was incredibly rewarding: With her warm yet objective approach, Clara helped me not only develop steps but also take action to resolve my issues. So valuable, thank you so much!"
"Clara's coaching was very valuable for me. I was able to take a lot of impulses and concrete new options for action into my everyday life and integrate them. Above all it helped me to give a wonderful 'boundary setter' a place in my inner world and to connect with her regularly. That was an absolute game changer. Thank you!" (translated from German)
"Clara's open, warm-hearted manner combined with her intuitive questions brought me to the core of my themes. Clara offers the protected space you need in order to open up and give yourself over to the healing process. She coaches with a dedication I have rarely seen. From the very beginning I felt seen, safe, understood and at ease in the 1:1 coaching, and we were able to transform themes that sat very deep. From my heart, thank you!" (translated from German)
"I have had the chance to work with Clara in two sessions so far. We worked out my blocks and I learned how to overcome heaviness and inertia in the way I work. I learned that I am allowed to let myself shine beyond others. That realisation set off a wave of energy and drive in me. It brought me an incredible amount of freedom, lightness and joy. I thank Clara so much for her sensitive way of working with me, for her intuitive questions, her impulses and her new perspectives!" (translated from German)
Book your intro call!
In a free, no-obligation intro call we can answer all your questions and get to know each other. Your partnership can become a source of joy and strength again. Let's walk that path together. We can talk in English or German. I'm looking forward to meeting you both!